Overcome Negative Self-Talk with Two Simple Phrases
When the negative self-talk and intruding thoughts begin to overpower, it becomes really tough to take control back. However, there are two very potent phrases that will help you flip your mindset and keep yourself grounded: "I am" and "I don't do.".
"I am”
This anchors you into the present, letting go of your past doubts or conflicting memories. As you say, "I am [fill in the positive adjective], your subconscious begins to ally itself with that affirmation, over time filling in as to why that statement has come to be true for you. Whether it is "I am confident," "I am worthy" or whatever else it might be, saying these words brings ownership of who you are at present and not who you have been.
"I don't do"
This is a statement of your boundaries. It's a sort of tone setting of what you will and won't accept in your life. Example: "I don't do pedestal for women." "I don't do toxic relationships." "I don't do excuses that prevent me from meeting the right people." Saying this is like giving yourself and others an impression of what you stand for.
It is a very simple, effective way of controlling your behavior and setting standards in accordance with your values. The next time some negativity pops up in your brain, try these phrases. "I am" and "I do not" are just two words-but they can shape your attitude and keep bad thoughts away from your space.
Jamie Date
Dating Coach for men
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